Why I'm not saying "Sorry"

I can't speak for all women, and wouldn't want to. But, my own experience is that I apologize because I feel like I need to make sure everyone else is happy and if they're not, I must have done something wrong (and need to apologize). 

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3 steps to joy (for young moms!)

I want to go back to that Kate and give her a hug. I want to tell her to:

  • Enjoy her kids more!

  • Release guilt about not feeling connected to God. Religion is getting you no where. 

  • Release mom guilt, wife guilt & friend guilt. You're doing the best you can right now! And it's enough. 

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How to Reach Your Goals

Do you make goals and then struggle achieve them? Or get discouraged with the results? Or, perhaps even forget about the goal you made?

If so, you're in good company! I have been there. But, recently I've been learning some really helpful tools and questions to help me make better goals that I will be more likely to reach. 


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Are you successful?

I'm in a business where goals, ranks, and money are often held up as measures of success. I understand that healthy goals are helpful, fun, and  growth-inspiring, I've experienced all these things as I've reached goals I never thought I could. It's exhilarating! But, it's a temporary confidence. The satisfaction is fleeting. The goal is finally reached (yeah!) and then there is a new goal to accomplish.

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Empathy

I am an empath. I can feel what you're feeling. In my body. Sometimes more than you can.

This is a beautiful gift God has given me. It allows others to feel seen and heard by me. It helps people feel safe and known around me...

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"I did my best, coach."

My son played on a soccer team last year that was pretty good. Actually, there were some really good 11 year old boys on this team. The coach was an intense guy. I liked him. He pushed the boys to be better...

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Give yourself TIME

A few months ago I heard it suggested that a life of spirituality and faith takes PRACTICE. This seemed so obvious, yet so novel to me, that I haven't been able to get it off my mind. 

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Enjoy the journey?

How do you "enjoy the journey"?

I've heard people advocate this message many times. Today, I'm questioning it.

I'm not questioning if "enjoying the journey" is a good idea. I mean, who DOESN'T want to enjoy the journey? I'm just wondering how. And, why don't I?

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Two Things God Says About Food

There is a voice that whispers lies in my ears. “Being thin will make me happy. Eating will satisfy me.” When I was 8, I discovered something bad about myself -  I was chubby. It was a new, undeveloped shame, but, it was a growing one. I learned if I could just be skinny, I would be happy. Now, over 30 years later, I fight that belief. But, it still lingers.

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7 Ways to be a Woman of Joy

It’s no small thing to me that I was raised by a joyful mom.  As I approach the one-year anniversary of her death, I am in awe of the joy she had throughout life, and throughout cancer, and I am inspired to be more like her.

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I was done being chubby!

When I was 13 I decided I was done being chubby. That reputation was old and undesirable, so, I went on a diet...To this day, my brain still follows the same pathway...I see a sexy girl in a bikini and I think, “that’s what I want; that the goal.”

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Food, Body & Bible

Why did I think that being thin, toned, bikini-ready (I live at the beach) would make me happy? I would deceive myself into thinking I was doing it only for health reasons. Supposedly I mainly wanted energy, reduced joint pain, better sleep. And, I did (and do) want those things, but the REAL reason was to be thin. Thin and strong. And sexy. And admired. And looked-at. And accepted. Ugh. THAT AGAIN?!  

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